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Categories: Adoption & Fostering, Anxiety, Bullying, Violence & Abuse, Moving House, Resilience / adaptability

A Safe Place for Rufus

This book would be a good choice for children who have experienced trauma in their lives which has left them feeling anxious in new situations. Also relevant for children who are struggling with transitions such as moving house, changing school or moving from one family to another.
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A Safe Place for Rufus

Author: Jill Seeney
Illustrator: Rachel Fuller
Publisher: British Association for Adoption & Fostering

The story is told in a simple way that is suitable for young children. Rufus the cat clearly represents a child who has had a difficult past with a previous family.
Rufus loves curling up on his favourite blue cushion and dreaming of his favourite things. But he hasn’t always been so contented. When he was a kitten, he lived with a family who weren’t always kind (he was shouted at and he didn’t have enough food to eat). Those bad memories followed him into his new home (the memories are shown as wispy ghost-like cat ‘spirits’ in the illustrations) and Rufus found them very difficult to shake off. Those memories made him feel angry (he roars at the children in his new home) and he refused to eat anything but pilchards (the food he used to dream about when he was underfed). The turning point of the story comes when Rufus realises that being angry and fighting is getting him nowhere (he gets tangled in some washing and can’t get free, so flops down and keeps still). He suddenly notices a beautiful blue cushion bathed in beams of sunlight (which has been left there by the family, hoping Rufus will discover it). Shaking himself, he settles down in his lovely new ‘safe place’. The bad memories disappear through the window and leave him at peace at last. Over time, Rufus settles in with the family and allows himself to be loved and cared for by them. He begins to eat different foods. Although he is still a little anxious (and likes to stay close to home), he knows that he always has a safe place to return to if he’s feeling troubled.

The gentle story is engaging enough to hold a child’s attention. Rufus is a very appealing character, beautifully depicted by illustrator Rachel Fuller.

The messages we found in this book:

Acknowledgement:

  • Transition can be challenging, particularly for those who have been hurt in the past.
  • It is sometimes very difficult to leave bad memories behind, and they can cause emotions like anger to surface, or negative behaviour to arise

Guidance:

  • A calm and safe place to retreat to can ease anxiety; ‘bad thoughts’ have no place there and the place can provide respite from worries and fears
  • Adapting to new situations takes time (Rufus eventually settles in to his new home, begins to eat a variety of foods and feels less angry anxious less often).
  • Imagination can take you anywhere you want to go

Hope & Inspiration:

  • Rufus settles in to his new environment eventually, and allows himself to be loved by his new family. He is still anxious from time to time, but he has developed some coping strategies (such as finding his safe place).
  • Rufus shows resilience and adaptability. Despite his troubled past, he slowly learns to trust people again and to share his feelings, which takes courage.
Worth noting:

The author, Jill Sweeney is a senior social worker in a fostering team and a trainer. Rufus’s tale comes from her years of work with children in care. There is a leaflet provided with the book which provides lots of information about the messages conveyed in the story and how to discuss those with a child, and suggestions on how to talk to a child about safe places.

Review by: Claire Ward-Dutton

Categories: Adoption & Fostering, Anxiety, Bullying, Violence & Abuse, Moving House, Resilience / adaptability
Tags: abuse, anger, anxiety, cat, eating, emotions, fears, foster



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